Sample Wiccan/Pagan Wedding Ceremony
Minister: “We have come together this afternoon to
celebrate the marriage and the entwining of destinies of Spouse and Spouse, who have fallen in love and chosen to get married.
There are no accidents in the universe. Nothing happens by chance. Whether we know it or not, the path of our
lives is already laid out deep within us, and life is the process of being willing and able to discover the direction of that
Marriage begins with
the giving of words. We cannot join ourselves to one another without giving our word. And this must be an unconditional giving,
for in joining ourselves to one another we join ourselves to the unknown.
Love is a miraculous gift, and a wedding
is a celebration of that magic. We are gathered here today to celebrate the gift of love that two best friends, Spouse
and Spouse, have found in one another and to share with them the magic of this occasion. Marriage is a very special
place, the sheltered environment in which we can endlessly explore ourselves in the presence of each other and in which we
can offer the possibility of the true reflection of another.
Let us extend our joy to Spouse and Spouse on this
happy occasion, for they are about to take a new step forward into life. This day was made possible not
only because of their love for each other, but through the grace of their parents and the whole of society. It
is our hope that their fulfillment and joy in each other increases with each passing year.”
Minister: “Spouse and Spouse, demonstrate your
love for yourselves and each other through caring and sharing. Stretch your love large enough to embrace whatever life
brings to you. Let it fill you, surround you, comfort and protect you.
Let your hearts be truly safe and at home with
each other. Be generous in expressing your love. Be open to receive love from each other. Be flexible and
forgiving with each other. Let your relationship be a catalyst that transforms you into the expression of your highest
Remember that your relationship is alive
and ever-changing and that your love is a miracle, always inviting you to grow, to learn, to blossom, and to expand.
How you regard each other and how you behave towards each other will determine the destiny of your union. It is your
creation together, your sacred responsibility.
Be kind to your relationship. Nourish it with tender loving care, and, above
all else, keep your love alive. Treat it as the precious blessing it is.
Do not just be married or in love, but let your marriage be an active
process of loving each other.
The quality of your marriage is up to you. Both of
you as individuals and together as a couple will choose what kind of marriage you will create, promote, and allow through
your thoughts, feelings, and actions each day.
May you always honor the sanctity of your union and be blessed beyond imagination.”
The Expression of Intent
“Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it
has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With full understanding of this, Spouse and Spouse have
come here today to be joined as one in marriage. Others would ask, at this time, who gives the Spouse in marriage, but, as
a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and taken, I ask simply: “Spouse, is it true that you come of your
own free will and accord to be wed to Spouse?
“Yes, it is true.”
Minister: “Spouse, it is true that you also come of your own free will and accord to be wed to Spouse?”
Spouse: “Yes, it is true.”
Sample Wiccan/Pagan Wedding Ceremony (continued)
Minister to Spouse: [Spouse repeats after
Minister] “Spouse, I take you to be my wife/husband, in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my
path, to honor and to cherish, in sorrow and in joy, until death do us part.”
Minister to Spouse: [Spouse repeats after Minister] “Spouse, I take you to be my husband/wife,
in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my path, to honor and to cherish, in sorrow and in joy, until
death do us part.”
Blessing of the Rings
things in nature are circular – night becomes day, day becomes night and night becomes day again. The
moon waxes and wanes and waxes again. There is Spring, Summer, Autumn, Winter and then the Spring returns.
These things are part of the Great Mysteries. These circles of gold, like the Mysteries of the Universe,
are without beginning or end. As they are now placed on your hands, they represent a seal of your love
and respect for each other.”
(Spouse takes Spouse’s left hand in his/her right, and while s/he is putting the ring
on his/her ring finger repeats after the Minister)
with this ring, I celebrate and proclaim my love for you.”
takes Spouse’s left hand in her/his right, and while s/he is putting the ring on her/his ring finger repeats after the
“Spouse, with this ring, I celebrate
and proclaim my love for you.”
of the Bread and Wine
Minister: [handing the chalice to Spouse]
“This is your first drink together as a married couple. May you never thirst.”
[Spouse holds the chalice while Spouse drinks from it, then Spouse takes the chalice while Spouse drinks from it.
The chalice is handed back to Minister.]
Minister: [handing the plate of bread to Spouse] “This is your first food
together as a married couple. May you never hunger.” [Spouse holds the plate while
Spouse eats a piece of bread, then Spouse takes the plate while Spouse eats a piece of bread. The plate
is handed back to the Minister.]
Minister: “Spouse and Spouse have included an ancient Celtic ritual called
Handfasting as part of the ceremony. The Handfasting was originally done at the time of the couple's betrothal,
or engagement, and it bound them in the eyes of the community to each other. This is where the expression
‘tying the knot’ came from.” [The
Minister ties the Handfasting cords in the traditional fashion around the Spouse and Spouse’s clasped right hands.]
Minister: “Now that you are handfasted, listen to that which I am about to say. Above you are the stars,
below you are the stones, as time passes, remember… Like the stone your love should be firm, like the stars your love should be constant. Let
the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage. Let the strength of your wills
bind you together. Let the power of love and desire make you happy. Let the strength
of your dedication make you inseparable. Be close, but not too close. Possess one another,
yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will also pass quickly.
Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you
unease, for the Lord and Lady are with you, now and always.”
Minister: “Spouse and Spouse, may
you always express courtesy and consideration, even in anger and adversity, for these are the seeds of compassion.
Love is the fruit of compassion. Trust, love and respect are the sustaining virtues of marriage.
May both of you hold these virtues in your hearts for they will enable you to learn from each situation and help you
to realize that everywhere you turn you will meet yourself.
and The Kiss
Minister: “Now that Spouse and Spouse have promised to give themselves
to one another, and to love each other, through their sacred vows, and through the giving and receiving of their rings, by
the power vested in me by the State of Maryland, I now pronounce you married. You may now kiss one another.”